Extra, Extra…Read all about it. Especially as it’s free for the month of Feb!

I had a really pleasant surprise last week when this email hit my inbox:

Dear Patrick Goh,
I’m delighted to inform you that your article published in Voluntary Sector Review was one of the Journal’s top five most read articles published in 2017. As such we will be making it free to access for the month of February and marketing it on our website (http://policypress.co.uk/journals/free) and on the Voluntary Sector Review twitter feed.

As the email didn’t ask me to fill in my personal information, I’m fairly certain it’s not spam. :)-

My reward? It’s being featured as a free download for the month of February 2018… so get it while you can.

#Don’t you wish your boy / girl friend was hot like me? JK! 

The article’s called Systemic practice and workplace as community: alternatives to managerialism

“In-othering” in a divided world

Relational leadership is not just about being nice. Hitler was nice to his family and friends. It’s not merely about acquiring relational skills either. We can, and often do, use these skills to manipulate. Take for example, sales people who are trained to use relational techniques for the sole purpose of making us buy stuff. Rather, it is about being mindful and responsible for the social realities we co-create in our conversations with others. In this sense… image

Christmas & New Year Reflections…

It’s been a long, hard and eventful year. If you are like me, you are probably feeling a bit down hearted about the state of the world, and alarmed at how the upheavals are no longer ‘out there’ in the big wide world but right on our very door-steps.

The cliche about what kind of world we are handing over to our children has never been so pertinent. With the terror alert for the UK at ‘severe’, the words, “dad, I’m going into London for the day” fills me with anxiety and a sense of foreboding.

However, as we approach the season for making resolutions, it’s probably a good time to remind ourselves that together, we can make a difference. Here’s some really wise words from my former tutor, Ken Gergen, (some call him the father of social constructionism, no less!). He says:

In the conflict-ridden conditions of the world today, it’s sometimes difficult to think positively. We each seem to live in our own small worlds, totally helpless to bring peace or relieve suffering in the big world. Yet, there is a way in which “the big world” is made up of just these “small worlds” in which we live. Making a difference in our own particular ways does add up.

How do we make the small worlds in which we live generate a better big world? Well, according to Susan Scott, “one conversation at a time.”

Wishing all my readers a wonderful, blessed Christmas with your loved ones, and many, many hope-filled, generative conversations that lead to beautiful consequences in 2016.

Patrick Goh


These are a few of my favourite things…

An email exchange with my friend and mentor, Chris Blantern, intrigued me so much that I decided to replicate part of the thread in this blog.

Chris: The more I think about it the less I know what a system is and hence what systemic can mean.

Gun I get the impression that Social Constructionists are a bit obsessed with ‘relationship-with-other’ as the only ontological ground – leaving no room for our relationship to cultural ‘actants’ (non-human actors). As Latour said – “a man doesn’t behave in the same way as a man with a gun”.

Also, people don’t (on the whole) drive through the traffic lights at red – even if the car in front of you did. We have delegated some social Signal Lightactions to the lights (substitute police). Whether it’s traffic lights or ice cream vans you can’t study social behaviour without studying objects in use – like words in use. Inter-subjectivity suggests there is nothing outside the conversation. I maintain we act in relation to context – of which language in use is very important but by no means exclusive.

Me: Interesting thoughts. Can’t speak for all Social Constructionists but the Systemic Practice doctorate I’m pursuing is about human systems, hence it’s primary focus is on how reality is co-created through human interaction, in particular the implicative effect of speech acts and the constitutive effect of language. I like the description that systemic thinking is not an explanatory theory per se but rather a ‘theory about theories’, which is why I am curious to know more about the systems and objects (non human actors) position you are advocating. However, I think Social Constructionists would say that in order for humans to have a relationship with things, we first have to socially construct them as cultural artefacts; and that the language we use to talk about these actants, makes and does things.

That said, we had a guy come into TF two weeks ago to talk about his PhD on poverty, during which he made an interesting hypothesis. He said that, according to the bible narrative in Genisis 2:7, humans are part of things because we are made from the dust of the earth. Therefore, humans have a special relationship with things. He went on to talk compellingly about implication of this narrative on how we view our relationship with things, in particular, money, the lack of it (i.e.., poverty), natural resources and nature!

PCG_6436Chris: In reference to your PhD guy – I think Gaians have a notion of a kind of synchronous relationship between humans and things – but I’m talking sociology. That is the study of social behaviour and action.

PCG_0409-ExposureThough it’s important I’m intrigued as to why linguistic inter-subjectivity seems to exclude other forms of relating. Meaning and possible action is also created through our relationship to objects, physical and abstract. So, for example, a progressive chief exec ‘says’ she wants to create a more democratic, less hierarchical organisation – but still sits at the ‘head’ of the table in meetings or has the only non-shared office, or has named, reserved parking spaces for the top team. Meaning and power relations are conferred through previous inscriptions in objects as constituents of context – not just the speech act.

Action is mediated by non-human actors (actants – Latour)

as well as with other humans and the lack of acknowledgement of the former seems to suggest that, in the old ‘structure versus agency’ debate – that Social Constructionists only see agency. There is no space for cultural artefacts that impart expectations of behaviour. Language or, more accurately, the lexicon itself can be seen as such. This is what Giddens refers to as performed structures – outwith the inter-subjective. He calls it ’structuration’ (i.e. social processes) that hold a sense of structure.

What’s interesting is that the notion of the ’system’ is more structural than it is inter-subjective – so there’s a paradox there. I think I am arguing for a 3rd possibility – that there are patterns rather than systems, and semi-stable, but they are socially performed.

barriersI remember an occasion when I was standing in the security queue for Departures at Stansted airport. The queue is channelled by parallel rows of stainless steel barriers (you may well know it). Progress was very slow and a woman in front of me, obviously frustrated and maybe de-meaned by the experience, turned to me and said – “for this to work we have to be sheep.” She could clearly see the affect of the barrier ‘acting into’ the situation. Is it only  folk ‘educated’ in learning and organisations that see behaviour as emanating deep within the individual, rather than the contextual environment? Wittgenstein and Burrus Skinner (he of lab rats and conditioning theory) may have been worlds apart in many ontological ways – but they both could see that context is an essential part of behaviour.

“There’s spit in my soup!” and “I’m messed up because of what my parent’s did.”

2 reasons why I think Relational Practice should be central to Organisation Development

1I love the phrase “The map is not the territory.” This phrase helpfully points out that strategic plans, operating statements, vision statements, benchmarks, corporate scorecards and the myriad of other planning tools are merely maps (a representation/aspiration of the real). And, that things don’t just miraculously happen because we have a good map. It takes people to make things happen. The quality of what gets done depends on the quality of the relationships. That’s the territory.

A friend of mine once explained it like this…

“It’s like going to the restaurant, and having been impressed by the menu, you proceed to eat the menu!” The menu is the map. The actual food you get, depends on the relational episodes leading to you being served. The chef might have been sick and someone less able had to step in. S/he may be preoccupied with bad news. S/he may have just been told that s/he was being let go. S/he may be planning to set up their own restaurant nearby. The employees may not be on speaking terms because of an argument. Something you said may have caused offence, etc.

An example from last year springs to mind:

“A XXX employee was caught on video and arrested for spitting in two cups of iced tea. The spitcustomers returned them because they weren’t sweet enough; he spat in them before giving them back. I don’t know if the customers drank the tea or not, but the article does say that they removed the lids and saw phlegm.”

A far cry from the restaurant’s Mission Statement:

“XXXX’s vision is to be the world’s best quick service restaurant experience. Being the best means providing outstanding quality, service, cleanliness, and value, so that we make every customer in every restaurant smile.”

The map is not the territory. The territory is the quality of relationships. Without this, a map is useless.

Great work only gets done through great interaction (relational practice).

2If you believe in the stats, it would seem that the breakdown of families due to failed relationships has reached epidemic proportions in the West. If this is the case, it may be reasonable to assume that people bring their deficit patterns of relating into the work place, resulting in dysfunctional relationships at work too.

These are two reasons why I think that organisations should get involved in helping employees learn, develop and maintain healthy and productive ways of relating.

At the heart of this endeavour is helping people learn to have generative conversations. Conversations that:

  • Create and maintain trusting relationships
  • Generate productive patterns of behaviour
  • Motivate and inspire each other to good works
  • Promote appreciation/celebration of difference
  • Enable identifying and resolving conflict as a norm
  • Provide conversational tools for finding common ground
  • Promote generosity and grace
  • Create and maintain healthy relational boundaries
  • Encourage the giving and receiving of feedback
  • Distinguish been authority and authorianism
  • Produce collaboration and participation

Have yourself a messy little Christmas!

Christmas is a time where we can’t quite seem to make up our minds about families. On the one hand we look forward to the idyllic gathering portrayed by greeting cards showing rosy-cheeked family members enjoying each other’s company over Christmas lunch. On the other, stories abound about stressed-filled days of  discontent, disappointments, disagreements and well, just plain dis’ing.

A colleague recently pointed me to Proverbs 14:4… “Where there are no oxen, the manger is clean, but abundant crops come by the strength of the ox.”

This proverb applies to relationships.

“Where there are no families/relationships, the manger is clean, but abundant blessings come by the strength of families/relationships”.

Not to put too fine a point on it… to reap the benefits of having an ox, we need to get our hands dirty.

Poo is a normal healthy part of life. In fact, without the process of intestinal evacuation, we’d all be dead! In the same way, healthy relationships are messy and is hard work.

The benefits of owning an ox, comes at a cost – the unenviable task of  keeping the manger clean. In my previous job, I had the privilege of getting to know Neema Crafts, a community project in Tanzania working to transform the lives of people with disabilities by providing training and employment. One of their first project involved turning elephant dung into Christmas cards! The process is complicated, stinky and takes tremendous effort but the transformation of dung into paper is nothing short of remarkable! The paper products have in turn given this little enterprise notoriety and commercial success.

Similarly, there is a cost to enjoying the blessings of a family; but one has to deal with the relational number 2s that come with it.

Great relationships don’t just happen. It takes hard work; a large dose of grace, kindness and patience. But the rewards are well worth it.

At this time when we are reminded about how much it cost Jesus to leave the glory of heaven to reconcile us back to a restored relationship with God, let’s think also about what we need to do to develop, nurture and reconcile the relationships with the people we love most.

Relationships, as we all know is a communal dance involving others. We can’t do everything ourselves. But we can do something. May the Lord bless and multiply your efforts by His grace this Christmas time.

May He fill us with His love so that we may love in turn…

PostScript -There is an important caveat to this lavatorial parable. If there is too much poo, we have a seriously sick animal – and it’s probably time to call in a vet or a family therapist!

A Song for Mission…

A couple of years ago some friends and I decided to combine our love of music and our passion for mission and create a worship song. Steven Sim from Singapore wrote the melody and the rest of us recorded our parts individually, on our computers at home; then we mailed or emailed the tracks to each other and mixed them. We’re really happy with the result and we hope you will be, too.

For a small donation (£1) you can download the mp3 and score of “We Give to You.” All proceeds will go to Jigsaw Kids Ministries in the Philippines, which aims to share the love of Jesus with Manila’s thousands of homeless children.

The more downloads (and donations) we get, the longer we can keep this worthwhile project going. Click now! www.cms-uk.org/song

Thank you!


Jade, Ben, Russell, Wil, Alister and Patrick

Special thanks to:

Steven Sim from Singapore who wrote this lovely song and for allowing us to tinker with the lyrics;

Tom Lockley from Soul Survivor played the drums for us!

Tom Tunney who recorded Jade on his Macbook