Here’s a great take on conversations… Conversation is the doing of action, like a dance!
“Etymologically, conversation comes from the Latin verb “conversari” which means to live, to keep company, to become occupied or engaged, to move around, to which middle English and French seems to have added “to speak.” The purpose of being in a conversation is to keep it going.” Krippendorff, 1993.
According to Krippendorff, there are three things that make for a good conversational dance:
1. Continuity and repetitiveness – the purpose of being in conversation is to keep it going.
2. It is cooperative and communal.
3. The performance is individually satisfying to all participants (at no one’s expense) but leaves something recognisable behind.
Krippendorff, K. (1993). Major Metaphors of Communication and some Constructivist Reflections on their use. Cybernetics and Human Knowing, 2, 3-25.