Psssst – the secret of relational leadership…

Once in a while you get an email so moving and profound that you just have to share.

This message is from my bud Phil Simpson. He says he’s going to expand these thoughts in a blog. I can’t wait. Here’s the taster. I hope this encourages you as much as it has me!

“Thanks for your support. I ‘happened’ to read this paragraph inUndefended Leader by Simon Walker today and thought of you….. 

“As long as we fear for our job, as long as we fear for our salary, as long as we fear for our reputation, as long as we fear for our popularity, as long as we fear for our credibility, as long as we fear for our wealth, as long as we fear for our control, we cannot be truly free in our leadership. (Because) …we will defend ourselves against the loss of the assets we value most. Only the person who is secure against the loss of all these things can be truly undefended, truly free. The secret of effective leadership is the freedom to live the undefended life” (pg 103).

It’s all about facing failure and loss, and embracing it, which is only possible when you know those you respect unconditionally accept you:

“Freedom comes from knowing that you are approved of. Freedom to perform comes form the knowledge that there is someone rooting for you in the audience, whose opinion you value more than anyone else’s and who is smiling and cheering for you” (pg 102).

Ultimately that is a Divine acceptance, but it also helps when that acceptance has a human face. So thanks for rooting for me!

Blessings – Phil”

Thank you Phil for taking the time to write this. I feel moved to bless others by accepting them unconditionally. I’m am posting your comments in the hope that it might have the same effect on others.

3 thoughts on “Psssst – the secret of relational leadership…

  1. I think I may agree with much of what has been said here though I think we have to look at the example of the lord Jesus as the perfect leader. He very seldom commanded. He was always open and truthful, never secretive. His purpose was always for the benefit of all other people whether His disciples or the generality of people.
    In the churches, as described in the New Testament, leadership is by the older men assisted by the older women, in particular the elders wives. They are overseers and shepherds as Peter tells us. 1Pe.5) We also have a wider description of the the work of a leader in Acts 20 in Paul’s address to the elders of the church at Ephesus. There the same pointss are made, maturity, shepherding (pastors) and overseeing (translated ‘bishops’)
    We see from the early ‘church fathers’ that from the time of Clement of Rome things went down hill. That decline was often driven by human ambition and so the need to be in control.
    As in any loving relationship, and I do not see why leadership ought not to be motivated by love, one’s own concern and drive is for the betterment of the loved ones.
    As a teacher I felt that it was right to ‘love’ ones pupils and students in the best sense of that word. One was actually paid for making youngsters better and enabling them to grow up.
    As a Petty Officer Electirician in the Navy and the Australian Navy I was once commended by the Chief Electrician for being able to lead young sailors on and to encourage their promotion.
    Diotrephes is an example of a man who ‘liked the preeminence’ (3John). Leaders like Caesar, Pompey and Napoleon had what one has described as ‘towering egos’. I have seen teachers obsessed with their own careers to the extent that they lose sight of the purpose of their teaching. That is, as I have suggested, to encourage the growth of the young entrusted to them.
    I see anyone in any management situation as partaking of those responsibilities. Is it not better for the world at large that those ‘under’ us should be helped and encouraged to improve their status. In that we are not manipulators who use others for their own ends. A wise lady I once knew, she was the principal of my Teacher’s College, always argued that we should never use others for our own advantage or gratification.
    The Napoleons of this world and the psychopaths who climb the pyramids of power are in fact destroying themselves. We do not need those sort of people. Unfortunately the pyramid structure seems to be universal but it is not the ideal picture of structure as in the Bible.
    Not to be tedious, I will end with this quotation. “Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory. But in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things but every man on the things of others. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus. Who being int he form of God thought if not robbery to be equal with God. But made Himself of not reputation and took upon Him the form of a servant…and being found in fashion as a man He humbled Himself and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.

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